Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Controlling Men: Should Jennifer Lopez Let Mark Anthony Back To Her World?

Is simply J Lo Fed Up With Anthony's Controlling Methods?
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Undoubtedly Marc is some sort of controlling spouse? Jennifer Lopez affirms she "loves herself enough" to get away from her relationship of seven years with Anthony. It happens to be reported that Marc Anthony was obviously a quite controlling partner.

Which says volumes by what Jennifer has been coping with in her own broken relationship together with Marc Anthony.

Lopez and Anthony have been thought to be a really perfect celeb couple. Loving and nurturing when it comes to the other person and when these people performed in concert it had been enchanting.

However behind the scenes it is actually really being revealed that remaining wedded to Marc had turn out to be nerve-racking also it would seem in which Jennifer Lopez lost sight of herself.

It really is noted that Anthony is definitely a controlling husband and therefore it had its own toll on Jennifer.

What Happens When You Are Married To Controlling Men
When you are with a partner that is a ‘controller’ that person has the potential to create emotional social and psychological harm in a relationship. The controlling men have a personality type has particular characteristics that they accept simply as the way they are. They don’t see their behavior as a problem.

Often Controlling Men Don’t Think That There is A Problem
They do not see this controlling behavior as a problem. After all this personality type has always lived with these characteristics and behavior. It is often learned as it is passed down by controlling family members.

Women Married To Controlling Husbands Suffer From Depression And Lack Of Self-Esteem
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"Is Jennifer Lopez Taking Control Of Her Life?"

The victims of controlling men can become severely depressed with their self-confidence and self-esteem totally destroyed and often times feel like they are going crazy.

It is also reported that Lopez has said she is relieved to no longer be with Anthony. But According to US Magazine, Marc is reported to be actively trying to get his wife back. “His mood shifts from blaming her to begging her to take him back to telling her she is destroying his life.”

Anthony appears to be doing all that he can to delay the process of moving forward with the divorce hoping to buy some time. Although, I do not know Marc Anthony, this behavior is typical of the controller personality. Men that are controllers, panic at the idea of a marriage breakup, unless it is their idea in which case the partner is dropped like a hot potato.

Why Do Women Marry Or Date Controlling Men?
So why would anyone get into a relationship with this a Controlling Personality in the first place?

The reality is most relationships start with putting your best foot forward so to speak. Being polite, caring and engaging would be expected in the beginning.

During the initial stages of dating and getting to know each other, it’s difficult to determine exactly what type of individual you are dating unless he acts like a controlling jerk from the get go.

It is really a time of being somewhat guarded as you both try to obtain information about each other without making someone feel like your conducting an interrogation into their background.

Does The Guy You Are Dating Have The Potential To Be A Controlling Boyfriend?
But there are ways to notice if the guy you are dating has the tendency or characteristics of becoming a controlling boyfriend.

Scrutinize His Behavior Toward Others
When dining in a restaurant watch to see how he interacts with the server. Does he speak to the waiter or waitress in a respectful tone or does he speak in a demeaning tone this maybe your first clue that he's a controlling man.

Does he get angry or upset because it takes more time than he thinks it should to get served? Does he always complain to the manager about something that did not suit him?

On the other hand do you find the service and the food quite acceptable and think he’s over the top with his demands?

Do you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable with his behavior?

These are examples are of a person who has a tendency toward a controlling personality and would probably end up becoming a controlling husband.

When you are a divorced woman dating, you certainly don't want to repeat the same mistake if your ex was a controlling husband.
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Notice a dates attitude whenever interacting with others. It could be at the checkout stand at the grocery or at the movie theater when getting tickets. Is he demanding, agitated and disrespectful some of the time for no apparent reason.

Guys That Are Control Freaks Often Don’t Have Many Friends
Another clue is to notice if he has a network of friends or does he seem to be more of a loner? Controlling men tend to be more of the loner types since people often shy away from their behavior.

How does the guy you’re dating interact when meeting your friends? If he puts your friends down that is a sign of things to come. A controlling personality will want to isolate you from friends and family.

What Are The Controlling Men Signs And Symptoms?
The key is to watch for signs of aggression, anger and demeaning behavior toward others.

Relationships with controlling men will most likely result in heartache, emotional, social, and even physical harm. A controlling husband not only emotionally impacts his spouse but also the children and can seriously ruin the way his victims will feel about love and romance in the future.

A partner with control issues can turn a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into a destructive fatal attraction type of experience.

Common sense alerts you to avoid people that appear insane or abusive and you would not think twice about dating that kind of individual. However, some of these people have become very skillful at hiding their personality and behavior abnormalities.

In Summary
The bottom line is you want to catch the tendency toward being a controller during the dating stage of your relationship. First impressions don’t count. You want to use your intuition and pay close attention to all the ways that a person you are dating relates to others.

If you catch him behaving in a questionable or disconcerting manner don’t write it off as he is just having a bad day. Take it seriously and begin to look for other subtle clues that may indicate that you are involved with a controlling personality.

Don’t Think That YOU Can Change a Controlling Boyfriend
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"Should J Lo Divorce Marc"One of the dating mistakes women make is to think that they are going change something about their boyfriend that is a deal breaker.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can change the guy or once you get married and he will be less controlling. These controlling personalities’ seldom change. This type of individual would need to get into some serious long term therapy and even then it may not work.

The main characteristic of a controlling personality is that they think they are always justified in what they do their anger and aggression. Their perception is that the problem is, other people in their lives need to learn how to behave properly. When dating men over 40, you need to be patient and let his true personality be revealed.

So as you have probably guessed I would tell Jennifer Lopez to move forward her decision to leave her controlling husband, Marc Anthony.

J Lo keep putting one foot in front of the other and don’t look back.

I wish you the best,

Suzy Weiss

Have you ever been married to a controlling husband or dated a controlling boyfriend?

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